7. Letting in the 'good'
Today – I want you to let in the good...
Evolution has meant we've inherited a negativity bias, which means we are pre-disposed to noticing the bad before we notice the good. In fact, one neuroscientist Rick Hansen likens negative thoughts to being like Velcro – they stick to us, unlike positive thoughts which are more like Teflon and slide off us.
Whilst this negativity bias works well for us from a survival perspective – and of course we need it to notice danger – many of us are noticing, turning toward, and sinking squarely into the muddy, stifling negativity a lot more than we need to.
So, in order to counter the effects of this bias and the worries we are feeling, what we do is turn our attention towards the positive – the good things that happen in our day, the pleasant experiences, feelings, sensations.
This isn't trying to force rosy unrealistic positivity, but instead it is there to give a more balanced view of our situation. Don't get drawn into the idea that if we are too chilled out, we won't notice danger – we will, you just will be a little less hyper-vigilant and you'll notice when it's working for you or against you.
Sit somewhere peaceful where you won't be disturbed.
Use Laura Haycock's painting and her words below to be drawn into this positive message and simply sit and enjoy the painting - absorb the colours, the light, her skill as an artist, practicing non-judgmentally.
You can also find a positive experience in your day and really sit and FEEL that experience.
I've attached another meditation for you to try to support this practice, in-fact, use this meditation every day for the next week and see how it works for you.
Special thanks to our talented psychologist Laura Haycock for painting this beaut of a painting and giving us permission to share it here.
"The light beyond the woods" is based on a photograph I took last year very early one morning on Bredon Hill in May time. It got me thinking about how the subject might be the bluebells or the trees, but it is meant to draw your eye to the light shining through from behind. Right now, this is so what we need to remember – to find beauty in the shadows – or to look beyond the current darkness to the light that shines through. Laura Haycock